Single and Content: Staying Away from the Idol of “Love”

As the world changes for the better, so they think, we Christians know better. We know that the world is becoming worse and worse each day. What is wrong back then is made right today, what is evil before is now good. The Bible says, people will be lovers of themselves in the latter end, creating idols of their own to worship—and it sure is true today, right?

But what’s heartbreaking is that some Christians become idol worshippers as well. You see, you don’t have to carve an image to be called an idol worshipper—you just need something/someone that you value more than God to be called an idol worshipper.

I know, idolatry in the hearts of the believers is kind of a broad subject. There are so many things that can be an idol—money, fame, possessions, or even a man whom you love so much.

But for the sake of dealing with the specifics, we’ll go on to discuss the IDOL OF “LOVE” for now.

If you’re a single lady, listen carefully. As discussed from my last blog—God’s will for you today is to be holy. Preserve your body, guard your heart and mind.

Many single women today, including Christians, are so engulfed with the concept of love that they let it control their decisions and actions.

Now, if you’re not sure if you are committing idolatry in this area, here are some points wherein you may examine yourself:

(Answer truthfully)

  1. If you are to compare the number of moments you think about God and the number of moments you think about “him”, who do you think of the most? God or ”him”?
  2. What’s the first thing you do in the morning? Read God’s word or check your phone/social media accounts to see any updates from “him”?
  3. Do you spend more time in prayer or do you spend more time trying to be with “him”?
  4. Do you spend more time with your family or with “him”?
  5. Are you more affected when the Lord rebukes you through His word or if “he” hurts you?
  6. Do you look forward to go to church to serve God or do you look forward to go to church to see “him”?
  7. Do you know more verses in the Bible or do you know more facts about “him”? (What he likes/dislikes)
  8. When you talk to your friends, do you talk more about God or do you talk more about kilig moments with “him”?
  9. Does God’s Word influence your choices or does “he” influence you more?
  10. Can you live without “him” and stay happy as you are right now?

These are just a few questions you might want to answer truthfully and see whether or not you are worshipping the idol of “love”. What’s difficult in becoming controlled by “love” is that you do not know that you are already controlled by it. That is why you need to carefully examine yourself.

The Bible says first and foremost to love the Lord thy God with all your heart, mind and soul. Then He continued to say love thy neighbour as thyself. Your priority as a single lady is to know and love your Lord more! That’s basically it. Other types of love/relationships are just secondary.

Just like any other logical statements, doing step #2 before step#1 won’t work. So if you choose to go on and love other people before fully knowing and loving your God—it will NEVER work out.

No matter how hard you try, this guy that you like right now will not give you 100% happiness and satisfaction. Only God can. Yes, you may experience happiness today—but it won’t take long and you’ll feel like you’re not as happy as you were back then.

Let me end with this verse:

Jeremiah 2:13 “For my people have committed two evils; they have forsaken me the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water.”

Compared to God, that guy you’ve been dreaming to have is just like a broken cistern, as much as you fill it with water, it won’t hold it for too long. You may continually make a move to have your happily ever after but in the end, you’ll just be left empty/unsatisfied (even if you get what you want—a relationship with him) because your priority and focus is wrong. But if you choose not to forsake the fountain of living water, you don’t have to fill your cistern with water because it is abounding, always abounding with love. That’s your God.

I pray that you choose the fountain of living water over a broken cistern that can’t hold no water.

Choose to focus on God and stay away from the idol of “love”.

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